February 19th 2010 
I Should’ve Known When He Said Latitudinarians…
The other night I received a call from Sunshine Girl.
Me: “How was your date?”
Sunshine Girl: “Uhhh. . .it. . .was. . .good.”
Me: “Are you okay? When I sent you the ‘first date check-in text’ you said everything was fine.”
Note: As I have mentioned before, sometimes when a girl is going out on a first date one of her friends will text or call an hour in to see on how it is going. If it’s going well, she will ignore it. If it’s not going well she will answer the call or text and learn there is some kind of emergency and that she needs to leave right away.
Sunshine Girl: “I’m just confused.”
Me: “Why?”
The story goes like this: The Chef and Sunshine Girl had known each other for a couple of weeks when he asked her on a date. Not a “we should get drinks after work date” but a “we should have dinner on a Friday night” date. Serious business.
They had the usual pre-date emails and texts to establish the activity, location, and time of their date. They decided to meet at a low key restaurant that has a full bar and serves breakfast all day.
They had flawless dinner conversation, discussing everything from old movies to how Latitudinarians influenced the modern church. When the check came, The Chef refused Sunshine Girl’s offer to split it. They were having such a good time they decided to walk and get gelato for dessert.
They ordered their gelato and then the wheels came off the wagon.
The Chef: “Want to try mine? It’s good.”
Sunshine Girl: “Sure!”
The Chef: “So I really like you. But I really can’t have a relationship right now. I need to focus on my relationship with God.”
Sunshine Girl just stared at him. When she could finally summon words, all she said was “Okay.” I mean, what do you say to the "relationship with God" excuse?
Cut back to our phone call.
Sunshine Girl: “And that was pretty much the end of the date.”
Me: “Are you kidding me? ARE YOU KIDDING ME? Has he hit his head on something?” As you might imagine, I was getting pretty worked up about this.
Sunshine Girl: “I know!”
Me: “He took you on a date to tell you he couldn’t date you because he needs to focus on God?”
Sunshine Girl: “Yes.”
Me: “In the words of Drummer Dude, ‘sometime there is no other explanation than that guys are idiots.’”
These are just the crazy things people tell me.
What Others Have Said...
Mark says:
The guy lies. He clearly had other reasons for not wanting to date her. The "God Card" is a cheap trump card that is played way too often in lieu of valid reasons (i.e. You just said you didn't like Star Wars, or hate people who watch sports). He's basically spineless and a horrible communicator. She's better off.
Anonymous says:
This statement and what was said in the post seem very hypocritical. What is the difference between what this guy did at the end of the date, to what the "sunshine girl" and her friend would have done if the date was going bad with their "emergency call?" They're both devious tactics. So, I think both the guy and the girl should have been more direct, but you can't put more anger towards one's response if the other would have done just about the same. I believe the Emergency card is played way too often, and what if the guy actually like her and she did that.
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